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Those Little Negotiators

Are your kiddos fantastic negotiators?

Mine are. They always have been.

I’m grateful they are intelligent enough to do so, even though it drives me nuts and takes forever and sometimes comes across as challenging (or rude). And yes! Oftentimes I get caught up in the power struggle, forgetting to leave my ego at the door and also forgetting the infamously awesome mantra:

Calm Body – Calm Voice – Calm Face

~ Samantha Moe

Funny story: When my littlest was 3, he managed to escape undetected, go into his sister’s desk, get her watercolour palette and paintbrush – LICK the paintbrush – and paint his lips, nose, around his cheeks and forehead with paint!

He knew I was curious, but didn’t know he’d been caught. He had no idea we could see the evidence so I knew I had to be very deliberate about how I investigated this situation.

I asked a lot of questions. And led him down a path of being guilty of touching and using things that weren’t his, and without his sister’s permission. (Note: I’m the one who left him unattended, this is as much my crime as his)

I knew this would be a good one so I got the video rolling so his dad could experience this almost first-hand. I managed to hold it together too until he realized he was in a predicament and started tapping his lip with his finger, and that’s when it happened… I lasted exactly 1 minute and 44 seconds before bursting into laughter!

I still have the video. And the photo of his face before he was busted is still one of my iconic favourites!

Have your kiddos ever negotiated their innocence with you?

I’d love to hear about it! Comment in our Facebook Community – click here – so others can see that we truly are not alone! Parenting can be hard, and funny all at the same time.

Fake it till you make it parents!


What exactly is Parent Coaching ?

Becoming a Parent Coach has helped me empower parents to have kids who listen, help out at home and do better in school. That’s the tip of the iceberg. What’s really happening though, is deep in the hearts of children.

I’m a teacher and work daily with 6 year olds. I also interact with parents who express that parenting is a thankless, challenging job that “doesn’t come with an instruction manual.”

Most parents will break down and express that they’re afraid they’ll do it wrong, or feel they have already messed up their kids, but every one of them loves their children, no matter how challenging they are. I’ve worked with parents of children who are adopted, have Autism, ADHD, are neuro-typical or neurodiverse. Always… the same sentiment.

First they contact me and when we first meet, they’re looking for acknowledgement, they’re frustrated and most are feeling overwhelmed. By our third meeting, they’re expressing joy and confidence about their new parenting skills. From there, we go deeper and I have the privilege of helping them implement tried-and-true strategies that work!

Soon after I hear that the kids feel empowered. They are happier and more cooperative. Then, their teachers start commenting on their improvements at school and ask if I coach teachers too. 😆 (I do.) In my classroom, my students are calm, empathetic and happy.

Parent Coaching is similar to Life Coaching, it’s about you, and finding your best self. As a parent coach, I don’t meet the children, I’m a parent-advocate and coach. I work with single parents, and also with parents-as-partners raising the same children. It’s an ongoing process (all humans are), but results are quick, compounding and mutually beneficial for both the parents and their children. (Visit Samantha Moe & Associates to find out more)

This type of transformation happens regardless of where parents are when they begin, and the impact on their children’s lives will transcend generations.

My life is richer. My heart is fuller. Our world better, one child at a time.

♥️ MrsMParentcoach