MrsM Parent Coach

This blog post by Lindy Sood, Co-Founder of Love Powered Co. spoke so deeply to my Mamma self, my Teacher self, my Student self and my Entrepreneur self, I had to share the power of self-compassion and reinforcement that our little ones are haring us and learning from us as they go from #Chaos2Calm.

I realized, that he has been listening (whether it be subconsciously or consciously or BOTH), the whole time. His display of pure, sweet, empathy, brought me back to reality, and with a deep love for these little beings, and a sprinkle of self-compassion, I wrapped my arms around my two favourite petite humans. It was going to be ok.”

~Lindy Sood

The way we speak to our children matters, those words travel beyond their ears, settling into the creases of their hearts and the crevices of their self-worth.

We as adults could benefit from this great message about not pretending, and that we ARE enough.

Acknowledge and validate children. When you see them first thing in the morning, when greet them after a long day or time away, and most importantly, when they’ve got fire on the brain and and are desperately trying to regulate their bodies and emotions.

Offer calm, soft eyes to say “I see you. I love you. You matter to me” and their mirror neutrons will actually share your calm and intuitively respond “to the change that he senses in you. This is the reason why, when you see a child differently, you quite literally see a different child.” Dr. Stuart Shanker discusses this in his #SelfReg blog.

‘Difficult feelings are tunnels, and we are trains traveling through them.

We have to move all the way through the darkness to get to the—you knew this was coming!—calm, peaceful light at the end of the tunnel.

Find out why well-meaning parents and caregivers often attempt to intercept our children on their journey through an emotional tunnel,” and why we need to stop at https://pickanytwo.net/the-train-analogy-that-will-change-how-you-see-your-crying-child/.